Nothing hurts more than seeing someone close to you drown in self-hate and depression. It is even worse when the one they love the most is the one who constantly bashes them and makes them feel the way they do. Sometimes it is so hard to understand why. Why do they stay with them? Why do they put up with the things they do? Why would they allow them to treat them treat way? Especially knowing good and well if you were in that position they would not tolerate you being treated that way. It is just really hard to help someone who does not want to be helped or does not realize they need it and it is even harder to stand on the sidelines and watch someone like that wither away into a person they would not even recognize.

Having someone who knows they are in a poisonous relationship and feel stuck either because of financial struggles, self confidence issues or whatever it may be is so sad. It is so important to be a good support system for someone who is struggling. Of course, we may not be able to be there for financial support but maybe helping them find resources or housing or jobs with better pay or just being there for them when they need someone to talk to. Any little thing helps, it is good to be there with a kind and genuine heart and help them talk them into realizing that they are stronger than this. They can overcome anything that they set their mind to.

 “The first step to getting better and getting out is facing the truth even if you do not want to hear it. How can you heal in the same place you got sick? You cannot. It is so detrimental to your mental health to keep toxic people around. No matter the attachment you just need to get rid of those kind of people. You need to filter out the bad and allow your circle of karma to be positive. I strongly believe that karma works in both negative and positive ways. You need to be around people who inspire you and push you to be better and do better for yourself and who also want better for themselves. It may take sometime to find the right kind of people like that and that is okay.”

And if you feel you are someone who is in that situation, I understand how hard it can be to come to that realization or feeling emotionally trapped because that is what you are used to. The first step to getting better and getting out is facing the truth even if you do not want to hear it. How can you heal in the same place you got sick? You cannot. It is so detrimental to your mental health to keep toxic people around. No matter the attachment you just need to get rid of those kind of people. You need to filter out the bad and allow your circle of karma to be positive. I strongly believe that karma works in both negative and positive ways. You need to be around people who inspire you and push you to be better and do better for yourself and who also want better for themselves. It may take sometime to find the right kind of people like that and that is okay.

I believe it is a necessity to spend some time alone -in moderation of course. You have to be alone in order to find yourself again and realize that you do not need somebody to depend on all the time. You need to realize that you. are. enough. It is important to focus on self love and to become at peace with yourself. It is very easy to lose yourself by trying to appease someone else. The right person will come along with time and accept all the flaws you thought you once had. There is beauty in broken things and the right person will see that in you. Self growth spiritually, emotionally, physically and even financially is a lot easier obtained by yourself. You should not be afraid to leave a person due to attachment or because you’ve been through so much. Sometimes it’s better to leave things behind and move on, start fresh. Now I am not saying that every time you get in an argument you should leave but if they do not benefit you in anyway, I do not suggest you sticking around. You should never give more than you receive-coming from someone who gives way too much. It is so draining to be that person. You need to be strong for yourself, I know it is possible. Do not let toxic people pull you back from you living up to your full potential. You have to find the strength from within to overcome these obstacles in life. Let these trials build you and help you grow not tear you down and bitter your soul.