Foundations of Love.

I swear my letters just keep getting shorter and shorter but this post is something that’s near a dear to my heart so stay tuned.

     When I was younger I was very involved in my church. I was apart of the youth group, I was on the vestry, I was an acolyte, I attended church camps and even got chosen as a youth delegate to attend the country wide conference, I was there every time the doors were open. I loved being at church. I loved the feeling of being close to God and I loved the idea that no matter how far I drift I’ll always have Someone to come back to.

     I know those words up there mean nothing to you. I know those roles and titles aren’t talked about in everyday society. So here’s a little background:

     A vestry can be defined as “a meeting of parishioners, originally in a vestry (a room or building attached to the church) for the conduct of parisional business.” We divided our roles in the church into different committees (for example: outreach, youth, etc.) and each of those committees had liaisons (leaders) that took the information conducted in the individual meetings and presented it to the vestry meeting to help make the decisions in the church. I was on there for two years as a youth delegate. I had a voice but no vote yet I was a liaison for the outreach and youth groups for my two years that I served. I was very honored to have had the opportunity of that my last two years of high school.

     An acolyte can be defined as a person who assist the celebrant in religious service or profession. In my church we walked in procession in the beginning and end, either carrying a cross, the gospel or the torches. During the service we had roles such as holding the book during the gospel reading, assisting in the preparation and giving of communion and just sitting up front in pretty white robes. I really enjoyed being an acolyte because it made me feel involved. It made me feel like I was contributing to others religious experience.

     I’m giving you this background because I feel lost now that I have drifted away. My morals and beliefs haven’t changed. I just feel like I have such a busy and cluttered life now that it’s hard to find time and I feel like I’m just making excuses for myself. I told myself that I needed to get back in the habit of making it a priority to attend church on Sunday. I’m about to be united in the bonds of holy matrimony, it’s important that I get right with The Lord, ya feel?


     I order this book that I saw on social media off of Amazon. It’s called 31 Prayers for My Future Husband. I honestly adore it (so far). It’s so well put together and the prayers are so nicely written. It’s everything I wanted to say but couldn’t find the words for. I used to pray for my future husband even way before I had a boyfriend. It’s always been a goal in my life to get married and have children and live happily ever after. On top of, of course, having my dream career and being a strong, independent woman. You can be independent with a partner, right? This book is golden for Christian woman who aspires to get married, whether in a relationship, engaged or even single. I highly recommend this book. It prepares you heart for marriage in the purest of ways.  When I got this book and my fiance saw it, he wanted one as well! They make a male version titled “31 Prayers for my Future Wife.” He loves his as well. It gives me such comfort when I see him reading it and knowing that he’s praying for me and my wellbeing. It makes my heart so full. I honestly think it helped our relationship some.

     There is another book about love that I want to briefly mention. I’m just going to briefly mention it because I haven’t actually read the whole thing yet but I have heard such wonderful things about it. This book breaks down the five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time and Physical Touch. You can even take a quiz to help figure out what your love language is. You can even find out your child’s, if you have one! I have heard so many reviews regarding just the quiz alone. Finding out your love language and even your partner’s love language can help you with understanding their needs and why they are the way they are. A lot of the time, our love languages derived from the way we were raised by either what we may have lacked or what we had the most of. An example would be, if your parents say bought you a lot of stuff growing up to make up for the lack of quality time they could spend with you then that might be the way that you fulfill your love. There’s nothing wrong with that either. If it’s what makes you happy then it’s okay.

     I just think it’s really interesting how accurate the quiz seems to be and how the website alone helps you be more self aware on why you are the way you are. It just an honorable mention because it was a way to help my fiance and I be more open and understanding of one another which is really important if your partner is someone you plan to spend the rest of your life with. And if your single and reading this, the one for you is out there. Just keep an open heart and a positive mind and you’ll attract the right one.


Have a wonderful day,

xo Caysey.

2 Comments Add yours

  1. We love the 31 prayer books & Five Love Languages books!! They help to create so much more spiritual intimacy in your relationship! There’s a five love language devotional that only takes a few minutes, you guys should check it out if you haven’t already. So worth your time!! 💓


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