Compromise.

com·pro·mise

-an agreement or a settlement of a dispute that is reached by each side making concessions.

I feel like relationships are all about compromise. In the end it’s about how much you can tolerate and what you’re willing to tolerate for the other person’s happiness. I’m not saying your relationship should be full of sacrifices and you never getting your way but there is definitely some give and take and when it’s balanced it’s good but it can’t always be. I know personally I have really bad days, whether it was from work or just everyday life and there are times where my fiance has to do more around the house and do more for me in order to compensate for what I’m not doing and the same thing for him. He works a lot of overtime and sometimes really long hours, even nights sometimes so I have to do a lot of compensating. I have to pick up his home roles and understand how tired he is from all the hard work he does and he does the same for me.

There are times where we struggle with this, it can’t always be rainbows and butterflies but what is important is to never give up and to keep a strong faith in your relationship. You have to have a lot of compassion and understanding for each other and what they are going through. As a fiancee, I chose Alex to be my life partner. Someone who is going to grow through life with me and the fact that I have found a partner so young means that we are going to be together for over half of our lives. There will be a point in our futures where we would have been together longer that we have been apart and that is so shocking to realize and we both know that we cannot get to that point without a little give and take.

I understand that you cannot always give more that you receive and that effort can be a tiring thing at times but you have to stand strong and never give up. Communicate. Listen to your partners needs and try to put yourself in their shoes. Try to do for them that you would want them to do for you. The golden rule people. I need this reminder for myself as well. You have to work hard for anything that you want and you have to want the relationship to work and make effort in order to make it work. 

with love,

c.p

 

 

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